The Fulfillment Of Marital Ideals

“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...”—Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages—from the “traditional” to the utterly nontraditional—and shows how any marriage can be better. The primary function of marriage from 1620 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marriage has emerged, one oriented toward self-discover, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try “lovehacks.” This is a book for the newlywed to the empty nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today.

Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.

The Marriage Institution was not by any stretch of the imagination a human devising. It was not even a cultural invention. God is the creator of the Marriage Institution. He created it to demonstrate His Fatherly love for the human family. He also performed the first wedding ceremony in the Garden of Eden and gave it a definition as a lifelong union enjoined by "two distinct individuals, who are genetically identical and yet each containing within itself something lacking in the other and complimentary to each other."

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

An ideal marriage is the ultimate desire of every grown adult of marriageable age, but unfortunately and against the will God, the activities of older folks in the field have painted a scary picture of the sacred institution, making an ideal marriage appear unachievable to the younger generation. This to me is an anomaly. Considering the fact that marriage is the first agent of socialization to a child, humanity owes it a duty to the younger generation to preserve the tenets of the institution based on old values handed down by God. The endemic crisis witnessed today in the institution escalated because of limited knowledge of values, inadequate culture of communication and poor handling of myths and fact of the institution. These factors among others are regrettably responsible for the embarrassing rate of divorces witnessed globally. The religious bodies have no doubt been contributing through workshops and seminars in solving the problem, but the conflict in their doctrines and restrictions does not give them the needed free hand to address the problem considering the dynamism that characterize life at that stage, so the problem has continued unabated. Quest for Ideal Marriage is written without unnecessary doctrinal restrictions to unveil those avoidable human mistakes which the young people especially, make in their quest for an ideal marriage. With recourse and sincerity, an Ideal Marriage is of course attainable by anybody who will discipline his/herself and follow the rules as handed down in this book. The difference between successful and unsuccessful marriage is simply distractions. If people have made their marriage work, you too can make yours work. All you need is to acquire the relevant information as contained herein and intelligently follow the rules in its application, and you will contract and enjoy a successful marriage. That is a promise. It is not a magic, Zig Ziglar once said “Just any dummy can succeed, if he cares to know what it takes”, in this book, you have it

Marriage is a wonderful experience when founded upon true love. The first model of marriage had its full swing from creation, meeting the specifications of God's design. God intended love to be practiced between two people who are distinctively different from each other by sex. The same was the case of our first parents, who had the opportunity to celebrate love in the domain of marriage. God did not institute the reality of the marriage union to be entered through contractual inclinations but to last as long as death permits, not to be dissolved by crisis rocking it. God instituted key divine parameters that tend to govern or uphold the existence of marriage, that when fully observed would establish a proportionate reflection of what is obtainable in heaven, in a true position of responsibility of rendering allegiance to God. . Life is characterized by change; its dynamic nature has placed everything in it to be under subjection to this change. For example, a newborn baby undergoes some developmental changes and attains the position of either as a teen or a full-blown adult. During this process, a lot of changes take place biologically, chemically and physically in the body. No one in life has remained stagnant but always in constant response to environmental, social, health, spiritual and economic changes, in appreciation of the wonderful surprises life has to offer. . The design of marriage was made with specifications to last as long as life endures, with the players not divinely permitted to withdraw from the pitch in due consideration of the changes that constitute life. Couples are called to uphold their marriage vows even in the midst of the torrential flow of life's challenges. In this situation of deterioration that depicts boredom and loss of appetite resulting from what seems attractive originally as being an 'old wine in an old bottle'. . Therefore, in order to strategically spice up the marriage union and maintain its savor and sweetness amidst the changing nature of life, a lot of conscious and unconscious actions have to be put in place. In this book, various methodologies have been adopted to bring back the pristine conditions of the marriage union, to serve God better and maintain a healthy relationship. . I, therefore, recommend this book : 'The Ideal Home, Fulfilling the Purpose of Marriage': for families riddled with challenges that seem impossible to handle, for a happy and joyous reunion.

Until very recently, no society had seen marriage as anything other than a conjugal partnership: a male–female union. What Is Marriage? identifies and defends the reasons for this historic consensus and shows why redefining civil marriage as something other than the conjugal union of husband and wife is a mistake. Originally published in the Harvard Journal of Law and Public Policy, this book’s core argument quickly became the year’s most widely read essay on the most prominent scholarly network in the social sciences. Since then, it has been cited and debated by scholars and activists throughout the world as the most formidable defense of the tradition ever written. Now revamped, expanded, and vastly enhanced, What Is Marriage? stands poised to meet its moment as few books of this generation have. Sherif Girgis, Ryan T. Anderson, and Robert P. George offer a devastating critique of the idea that equality requires redefining marriage. They show why both sides must first answer the question of what marriage really is. They defend the principle that marriage, as a comprehensive union of mind and body ordered to family life, unites a man and a woman as husband and wife, and they document the social value of applying this principle in law. Most compellingly, they show that those who embrace same-sex civil marriage leave no firm ground—none—for not recognizing every relationship describable in polite English, including polyamorous sexual unions, and that enshrining their view would further erode the norms of marriage, and hence the common good. Finally, What Is Marriage? decisively answers common objections: that the historic view is rooted in bigotry, like laws forbidding interracial marriage; that it is callous to people’s needs; that it can’t show the harm of recognizing same-sex couplings or the point of recognizing infertile ones; and that it treats a mere “social construct” as if it were natural or an unreasoned religious view as if it were rational.