Bully Is As Bully Does

Bullying has long been tolerated as a rite of passage among children and adolescents. There is an implication that individuals who are bullied must have "asked for" this type of treatment, or deserved it. Sometimes, even the child who is bullied begins to internalize this idea. For many years, there has been a general acceptance and collective shrug when it comes to a child or adolescent with greater social capital or power pushing around a child perceived as subordinate. But bullying is not developmentally appropriate; it should not be considered a normal part of the typical social grouping that occurs throughout a child's life. Although bullying behavior endures through generations, the milieu is changing. Historically, bulling has occurred at school, the physical setting in which most of childhood is centered and the primary source for peer group formation. In recent years, however, the physical setting is not the only place bullying is occurring. Technology allows for an entirely new type of digital electronic aggression, cyberbullying, which takes place through chat rooms, instant messaging, social media, and other forms of digital electronic communication. Composition of peer groups, shifting demographics, changing societal norms, and modern technology are contextual factors that must be considered to understand and effectively react to bullying in the United States. Youth are embedded in multiple contexts and each of these contexts interacts with individual characteristics of youth in ways that either exacerbate or attenuate the association between these individual characteristics and bullying perpetration or victimization. Recognizing that bullying behavior is a major public health problem that demands the concerted and coordinated time and attention of parents, educators and school administrators, health care providers, policy makers, families, and others concerned with the care of children, this report evaluates the state of the science on biological and psychosocial consequences of peer victimization and the risk and protective factors that either increase or decrease peer victimization behavior and consequences.

Bullying at School is the definitive book on bullying/victim problems in school and on effective ways of counteracting and preventing such problems.

A serious yet humorous guide to dealing with bullies.

A guide that helps parents focus on their children's unique strengths and inclinations rather than on gendered stereotypes to more effectively bring out the best in their individual children, for parents of infants to middle schoolers. Reliance on Gendered Stereotypes Negatively Impacts Kids Studies on gender and child development show that, on average, parents talk less to baby boys and are less likely to use numbers when speaking to little girls. Without meaning to, we constantly color-code children, segregating them by gender based on their presumed interests. Our social dependence on these norms has far-reaching effects, such as leading girls to dislike math or increasing aggression in boys. In this practical guide, developmental psychologist (and mother of two) Christia Spears Brown uses science-based research to show how over-dependence on gender can limit kids, making it harder for them to develop into unique individuals. With a humorous, fresh, and accessible perspective, Parenting Beyond Pink & Blueaddresses all the issues that contemporary parents should consider—from gender-segregated birthday parties and schools to sports, sexualization, and emotional intelligence. This guide empowers parents to help kids break out of pink and blue boxes to become their authentic selves.

Bully B.E.A.N.S. teaches children how to speak up when it comes to bullying. Bullying continues to be an ongoing problem for children everywhere. Children from every race, culture, and socioeconomic group are susceptible to bullies. Most children are unprepared for how to handle it when bullying happens to them or someone they know. Bully B.E.A.N.S. helps children identify bullying, and offers clear and impactful action strategies for both targets and bystanders. Maxine liked to pick on kids... especially Winston. Winston is the smartest kid in our whole school. Maxine made him do all of her homework and give her all of his lunch money. Maxine liked to make Winston cry... then she'd call him a crybaby. "If you don't do exactly what I tell you to, I'll knock you into next week!" Nobody liked the way Maxine treated Winston, but we were too afraid to do anything about it. Written by bestselling author Julia Cook, Bully B.E.A.N.S. reminds children of the power of their voice and how to use it effectively when standing up against bullying. Bullies Everywhere Are Now Stopped!

"e;Bully is as Bully Does"e; is the second book in the "e;Everyone Longs to Belong"e; series, which is all about friendships and sharing important life lessons through stories. In the first book, "e;Everyone Longs to Belong"e;, mybestfriendinni shares the story about Harmony meeting Envy. Harmony learns just how important it is to make the right friends, in the right way, and for the right reasons. mybestfriendinni is excited to take readers on yet another fun and engaging journey into Max's Inniverse to meet Honesty. "e;Bully is as Bully Does"e; is about the experience of being bullied, from Honesty's point of view. He is filled with embarrassment and shame, and struggles with his feelings and decides to hold them in. And the more he does, the harder it is to speak up about it. Follow Honesty through Max's Inniverse as he learns that his true friends are always there to help him, and that there's nothing to be ashamed of if you are being bullied. Honesty also learns how courageous he actually is when faced with a situation where he knew he had to do something to help a friend. mybestfriendinni has 12 characters, led by Max, the human protagonist who is delighted to share her Inni, or intuition, with everyone. The remaining characters are all animated, iconic creations that kids will be drawn to based on their bright colours and personalities. Each character represents a "e;friend"e; (a good value) or a "e;frenemy"e; (a negative human trait), and to keep things simple, they are all named after the value they represent! The friends are Generosity, Honesty, Harmony, Courage, Love and Kindness; and the frenemies are Bully, Selfish, Liar and Envy. Inni is there as a guide to everyone in the Inniverse, and is in all the stories to share the important lessons learned. The need for kids to grow up with a clear understanding of important core values such as empathy, compassion and self-confidence has never been greater. With challenges such as bullying being faced by school-aged kids, mybestfriendinni is excited to share a fresh and engaging way to show kids how to better understand, and identify different behaviours, be it their own or those of others, and how to manage them.

If you want to fix your rebellious and disrespectful child, you need to start by fixing yourself. Are your kids pummeling you with demands and bossing you around with impunity? Have your once-precious preschoolers become rebellious, entitled, and disrespectful to authority? While there are plenty of so-called experts who might try to validate your convictions that you have done all you can to “fix” your “difficult” children, the hard truth is, they’re not doing you any favors by placing the responsibility solely on your children. Parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume their leadership roles once again. Parents will discover: Three common bullying styles used by kids Parenting styles that contribute to power balances Critical testing periods in a child’s development Coping mechanisms that backfire Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario The solution to any problem begins with learning to control what you can control. In parenting, you’ve already learned how impossible it is to control your kids. Begin by controlling you!

Back Page I cry every day before and after school because I have been a victim of bullying for most of my life. I had the misconception that once I reached middle school that I would be free from being [a] victim. Wow! Was I wrong [!] I am now a 7th grader and the torture continues. I suffered in silence until I met Ms. Smart; I feel some level of comfort because she let us know that she does not tolerate bullying in her classroom. Like many others I tried to commit suicide by jumping out of a window of a three-story building. I am also a cutter. I want to live but how? –Seventh-grade student Unfortunately, stories like that of this middle school student are all too common. The social pressures of bullying can lead to intolerable unpleasantness for some students. Bullying in schools is a growing concern in the United States. Bullying causes many problems, not only for the victim, but also for the bully. Students desire a safe haven at home and school; however, problems with bullies lead to insecurity in the victim and make home and school feel more like a prison than the safe haven they are supposed to be. Bullying via the Internet or cyberbullying is steadily increasing. A bully can harass someone via text, email or hurtful comments on a social network site. This has led to a whole new breed of bullying. A bully no longer has to be face to face. He/she can now say harmful things about a person through the Internet for others to read and comment. No matter how it is looked at, bullying is wrong. It’s never okay. It’s never cool. It never makes one person look better than another because they are bullying someone. This book offer strategies as to what to do if one should find themselves as a victim of bullying behavior as well as if you happen to be the bully. Also covered are tips for parents, teachers and community members.

Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and conflict resolution, bestselling parenting educator Coloroso offers a groundbreaking guide to an escalating problem of school violence.

What causes a person to bully another? Is it hate? Jealousy? Their own self-brokenness? To be a bully is a tragedy of the soul, but worse yet, to be the victim of bullying goes beyond just a tragedy but utter devastation and destruction of an innocent person's personhood. The victim, the target of a bully's inner inadequacies, is violated by someone who has severe brokenness. The victim is now left fragmented, depending on the degree of bullying and the strength of the victim to brace themselves against the pressure. Bullying is the stealing of an innocent person's right to be who they are. Their space is violated, and their valuables are stolen. They are left to feel like a victim, a fragment of who they were or who they used to be. A bully takes away, by force and illegally, the rights of someone else to live in their own unique and personal identity as a single-framed human being. Bullying is a disease of the soul that, if left unchecked, will carry over into a society of adults and leaders who have continued their bad characters from childhood into their adulthood, giving us a society that is filled with a denseness of moral "bullies." Bullying must be stopped. There is a cure, and there has to be a willingness to work together to end its infectious quest because it leaves an innocent person fragmented and needing to pick up the pieces of their lives to put them back together again. For some, it is very difficult; therefore, they sought a way out, so they commit suicide; for others, though it is very difficult, they seek help for the restoration of their "selves" so that they may continue with their lives, and yet for others, they live broken for the rest of their lives, society being robbed of who they could have been and the virtue that they could have contributed. Bullying is everyone's problem, and we all must work with intense purpose to destroy it from the root. To the bully, what makes a bully a bully? It is indeed brokenness on the inside. Issues and troubles are not always the reason for one's brokenness; brokenness, at times, occurs due to a flaw in one's character. Many who have everything they could ever wish for bully others because there is a certain satisfaction in inflicting pain. To the bully, it is not okay to steal someone's soul (mind, will, emotions). The toxic behavior of bullying another person is a sign that a bully needs psychological intervention. For a bully, there is hope; there is help. If you are a bully, seek help because bullying not only destroys another person's life, but it destroys the bully's as well because there will be consequences. To the victim, know that it is not your fault but that you are an innocent victim of someone's brokenness. What happened to you is tragic and unjust. You can recover all that you have lost. In your journey of healing, continue to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to flow in grieve and recovery because, at the end of your journey, you will have become a stronger and wiser version of yourself. It'll be you but with greater wisdom and greater power. The bullying will have given you the opportunity to learn and grow in ways you may not have grown had the bullying never occurred. So deal with it, process it, grieve, then move on. Use it to strengthen YOU, adding to your wealth of moral goodness.