When Love Hurts Loving A Narcissist

Do you wonder what is wrong with your marriage? Is your spouse extremely self centered, manipulative and just plain mean? If so, you may be married to a narcissist. ""When Love Hurts: Loving a Narcissist"" offers a Christian perspective on this difficult situation. It also will teach you about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, identifying narcissists, ways to cope with their abusive behavior and help you decide whether to stay or leave.

It's Okay to Have Needs of Your Own You fell in love with him. But over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself—and you feel trapped. His needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of God's love. Whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. Discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing.

"We cannot see what we don't understand. Finally a book about abuse that blazes a path through the complex dynamics of domestic violence and helps the one who is being hurt to look at herself - with compassion and tough love. To be strategic and smart. To choose herself. This fairy tale busting, no-bullshit, no judgement gem of a book brings together the collaborative genius of a brilliant therapist and a courageous survivor of abuse and offers stories, strategies and solutions to one of the most misunderstood and intractable of human predicaments: when a woman loves a man who hurts her. Compelling, insightful and utterly liberating. I wanted to stand and cheer when I finished reading it. This book will save lives." - Joanne Fedler, international best-selling author and women's rights activist "When Loving Him Hurts is a beautiful and poignant reminder that everyone has options." Nadia Bilchik CNN Editorial Producer Ask any woman whether a man has ever hurt her, and the answer in all probability will be a resounding yes. Yet despite women's abuse being one of the most topical and written about subjects today, there are still many myths and preconceptions surrounding the syndrome. Did you know: Most abused women don't heed the signs because they don't know what they are; Most people think abuse is purely physical; Unless a woman has been raped or assaulted she cannot report it; Despite it seeming logical by the concerned outsider, an abused woman usually cannot just up and leave. The responsibility of children, rent and the effects of disempowerment that come with systematic abuse need to be overcome. There is no way to evaluate the cost of abuse to the economy unless it results in litigation such as a restraining orders and most don't. When loving him hurts is a comprehensive selfhelp manual that will appeal to any woman who has ever been psychologically, emotionally, financially or physically hurt by a man.Through penetrating case studies, work sheets and psychological insights, When loving him hurts will help the reader identify and accept her situation of abuse and subsequently empower her to learn the art of the sacred No, reclaiming self-esteem and healing through life-changing, creative expression. It is an invaluable tool, a unique guide written specifically for wounded women, by two women who are all too familiar with the silent and invisible stain of abuse that marks the world we live in.

Narcissism is a modern epidemic, and it’s spreading rapidly. But how do you know if you are in a relationship with one—and, what can you do about it? We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us. There are a few hard facts about pathological narcissism that most people don’t know and most psychologists will never tell you. Should I Stay or Should I Go? uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to prepare you for the real terrain of pathological narcissism. It raises the red flags to watch for and provides a realistic roadmap for difficult situations to help you reclaim yourself, find healing, and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay. Or go.

You can survive divorce and even thrive! Do you feel like you are emotionally bleeding but no hospital can make it stop? Like you are a dead woman walking? Like you'll never be able to climb your way out of this heavy, suffocating place? Know this: With Jesus, you'll make it out, and you'll be okay. Jen Grice had to stop fighting for a marriage that had been dead for years and then had to work through the trauma of divorce proceedings and life thereafter. It wasn't easy, just as your own struggle isn't. But now Jen is healing and whole, as you can be. In this book, Jen holds your hand as you walk through the pain. - See a way out of the darkness of divorce-into the light. - Discover a hope-filled, fully redeemed future ahead. - Find hope in a devastating time. There is no roadmap through this foreign territory we call divorce, but here are those who have gone before us to light the way. As Jen shares her personal healing story, she points out God's promises and His healing and protection that will help you not only survive this difficult time but eventually thrive.

“Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist. Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls. Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity—insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders. There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes. It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

Within the throes of a madly passionate romance is the most ghastly soul rape and mind crime conceivable. The Great American "Psychopathic" Love Story exists in a world where nothing is as real as perceived. Beneath the surface of what seems to be a fairy tale romance is the outline for what may be the perfect murder, and if you are naive enough to think it can't happen to you, you're wrong, ... dead wrong. Loving A Narcissist is the diary of a man being vicimized by a lethal narcissist, from beginning to end as it happens. Be there as he learns about narcissism and as he searches for a way to completely heal from the abuse. Many readers/victims praise this book for helping them heal as well. Steven thought he was writing about the phenomenal love he and Ashley had for each other. He didn't know that he was actually documenting the manipulation and torment experienced by the victim of a highly skilled emotional vampire. An endearing love story that is insanity in the raw, and just when you think it is all over, it begins again before leading to a shocking ending that will not soon be forgotten. Read this before purchasing this book: Many victims of narcissistic abuse buy books on the subject just to make them feel better by reading about what evil monsters the narcissists are. Granted, they have suffered tremendously, but this type of victim wallows in misery and are not able to heal or move beyond the abuse. If you are looking for a book that just repeats what hundreds of others already outline, then this book is not for you. This book is a memoir from the perspective of the victim as the mental and emotional abuse is taking place. It portrays the confusion that comes from abrupt abandonment and ostracization by a loved one. Through the victim's eyes, you will experience what it is to be "Gaslighted" by a narcissist, which is, idealization, discard, and devalue. When a narcissist is victimizing a person, the abused becomes someone they are not, and behave in ways out of the norm. Where some may view the behavior as childish or immature, it is actually a person fighting to hang onto his or her sanity. This is "Loving a Narcissist." "Dynamic person stylized writing. Brilliant! A death to birth with a delivery that is painful as bloody hell." - Becky Joyce Reed (Author of Life in the Aftermath of a Narcissist) "Thank you Steven from the bottom of my heart. I was completely destroyed by my relationship with a Narcissist. Your book was the turning point for me and saved my life." -Debbie Perez "Congratulations on writing a wonderful and powerful book. Yours is a very important story to tell - because it's from a man's viewpoint (not a perspective we hear from enough)." - Leslie Morgan Steiner (Author of the New York Times best selling memoir "Crazy Love") This book saved my life. - Debby Perez Everyone should read this. These psychopaths are multiplying like crazy and we need to know how to identify them for our own sakes and for the sake of society. This is one story out of too many that can teach us what to look out for. - Linda Freeman Dear Steven, I received your book on a Friday, and could not put it down, yet at times the pain I felt for you was unbearable. I could so relate though to the pain. Steven, I just finished reading your book "Loving a Narcissist" and I wanted to tell you how moved I was by your honesty and revealing your vulnerability. Reading it, I cried for you sometimes. Thank you for telling us your story. It doesn't just happen to women. Be well and blessed ... I think you are now. - Liz Davies

Within the throes of a madly passionate romance is the most ghastly soul rape and mind crime conceivable. The Great American "Psychopathic" Love Story exists in a world where nothing is as real as perceived. Beneath the surface of what seems to be a fairy tale romance is the outline for what may be the perfect murder, and if you are naive enough to think it can't happen to you, you're wrong, ... dead wrong. Loving A Narcissist is the diary of a man being vicimized by a lethal narcissist, from beginning to end as it happens. Be there as he learns about narcissism and as he searches for a way to completely heal from the abuse. Many readers/victims praise this book for helping them heal as well. Steven thought he was writing about the phenomenal love he and Ashley had for each other. He didn't know that he was actually documenting the manipulation and torment experienced by the victim of a highly skilled emotional vampire. An endearing love story that is insanity in the raw, and just when you think it is all over, it begins again before leading to a shocking ending that will not soon be forgotten. Read this before purchasing this book: Many victims of narcissistic abuse buy books on the subject just to make them feel better by reading about what evil monsters the narcissists are. Granted, they have suffered tremendously, but this type of victim wallows in misery and are not able to heal or move beyond the abuse. If you are looking for a book that just repeats what hundreds of others already outline, then this book is not for you. This book is a memoir from the perspective of the victim as the mental and emotional abuse is taking place. It portrays the confusion that comes from abrupt abandonment and ostracization by a loved one. Through the victim's eyes, you will experience what it is to be "Gaslighted" by a narcissist, which is, idealization, discard, and devalue. When a narcissist is victimizing a person, the abused becomes someone they are not, and behave in ways out of the norm. Where some may view the behavior as childish or immature, it is actually a person fighting to hang onto his or her sanity. This is "Loving a Narcissist." "Dynamic person stylized writing. Brilliant! A death to birth with a delivery that is painful as bloody hell." - Becky Joyce Reed (Author of Life in the Aftermath of a Narcissist) "Thank you Steven from the bottom of my heart. I was completely destroyed by my relationship with a Narcissist. Your book was the turning point for me and saved my life." -Debbie Perez "Congratulations on writing a wonderful and powerful book. Yours is a very important story to tell - because it's from a man's viewpoint (not a perspective we hear from enough)." - Leslie Morgan Steiner (Author of the New York Times best selling memoir "Crazy Love") This book saved my life. - Debby Perez Everyone should read this. These psychopaths are multiplying like crazy and we need to know how to identify them for our own sakes and for the sake of society. This is one story out of too many that can teach us what to look out for. - Linda Freeman Dear Steven, I received your book on a Friday, and could not put it down, yet at times the pain I felt for you was unbearable. I could so relate though to the pain. Steven, I just finished reading your book "Loving a Narcissist" and I wanted to tell you how moved I was by your honesty and revealing your vulnerability. Reading it, I cried for you sometimes. Thank you for telling us your story. It doesn't just happen to women. Be well and blessed ... I think you are now. - Liz Davies

Are you a victim of narcissistic abuse? Do you suffer from traumatic stress? Are you in the middle of an emotional crisis brought on by a death, betrayal, illness, or divorce, or are you just ready to heal because you’ve had enough? Are you unhappy, emotionally fatigued, and suffering from chronic emotional pain? In Take Your Power Back, author Evelyn M. Ryan offers a step-by-step guide that teaches you to regain and use your personal power to turn your pain-based life into one filled with joy. This resource is a product of Ryan’s decades-long search for the truth to help adult survivors of childhood abuse and other traumas heal from pain addictions. It will help you discover that the source of truth-based healing resides in you, and you can tap into that infinite power. Ryan discusses: • the real origins of your chronic, emotional pain and feelings of powerlessness • the biggest obstacles that keep you in abusive relationships • how to stop thinking like a victim • what pain triggers are and how to identify them • the difference between love and trauma addiction • exercises to strengthen self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-reliance • how to not only heal, but to thrive after recovery Take Your Power Back contains the most current and effective lessons, tips, and tools validated by skilled psychology professionals and abuse survivors. It includes a guided, go-at-your-own-pace personalized abuse-recovery program, showing you how to stop thinking like a victim, end your chronic emotional pain, and thrive.

When our partner is a narcissist, only those who've actually experienced the madness will ever understand what we're going through. This is a straight-up, tell-all book about narcissism in relationships that focuses solely on the personal experience. A narrative that holds nothing back, Zari Ballard's story will educate, enlighten, and empower you to evaluate (and fully understand) the mind-boggling dysfunction in your own relationship. Compare her story to your own and watch what happens. As it has for thousands of abuse victims worldwide, it is going to resonate with you in ways that no other book about narcissism ever has.