The Shadow Side Of Intimate Relationships

The Shadow Side Of Intimate Relationships takes a very real look at intimate relationship and what is occurring beneath each partner's surface awareness when un-nourishing patterns of behavior begin to get locked into place. It sheds light on aspects that intimate partners seldom recognize or want to confront and takes the view that both partners must become more aware of themselves, at deeper levels, warts and all, if they want to experience an authentic, enduring love. “Doug and Naomi Moseley are experts when it comes to the underbelly [shadow side] of relationships. This book is a must- read for folks who desire a deeper understanding of marriage dynamics.” John Bradshaw, author, Healing the Shame That Binds You “A real book for real people who are lost in power struggle and want to find their way to love and passion in marriage.” John Gray, Ph.D., author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus "With incredible clarity, uncompromising truth, and rare and refreshing wisdom, the Moseleys have written a life-changing book that will help couples create profoundly intimate relationships.” Marriage Magazine “Terrific! A great leap forward in the process of personal development through relationship. Very highly recommended.” Brugh Joy, M.D., F.A.C.P., author, Joy’s Way, Avalanche “The authors have managed to integrate deep psychological information into a down-to-earth, workable model. This book is a must-read for individuals, couples, and helping professionals.” Pat Love, Ed.D., Past President, International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors, co-author, Hot Monogamy “. . . an invaluable resource for understanding the full range of life’s most rigorous spiritual practice: the art and craft of relationship. This book gives a realistic and inspiring vie w of ho w enriching and challenging an authentic intimate relationship can be.” Angeles Arrien, Ph.D., Cultural Anthropologist, author, The Four-Fold Way, Signs of Life

Two of America's leading relationship counselors show couples how to achieve true passion, romance, and intimacy. The Moseleys reveal specific ways to get at the root of behavioral problems that sabotage relationships.

Intimate Relationships covers both classic and current material in a concise yet thorough and rigorous manner. Chapters range from attraction to love, attachment to jealousy, conflict to relationship dissolution — all written in a warm, personal, and engaging voice. Each chapter is organized around the major issues and relevant theories, in addition to a critical evaluation about the research. When appropriate, the authors discuss and evaluate popular ideas about relationship processes in the context of scientific research. This includes critical evaluations of evolutionary approaches to attraction, victim-based accounts of abuse, and the separate-cultures view of the sexes.

Insightful perspectives on the social worker's role in the counseling of clients who have problems with different kinds of love.

The author suggests that nothing strikes a stake through the heart of marital hopes and dreams like the incessant pursuit of happiness, with the therapeutic community often colluding with this cultural imperative. As spouses demand that their partners and their marriages make them happy, a myriad of unfortunate dynamics ensue making the typical marriage unbearable. "Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy offers both couples and professionals an uniquely in depth perspective upon marriage that can't be found in the pages of any other text." -Dr. George Rogers. Author of Terror, Bonding and Psychotherapy. "Paul Dunion's Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy collects the many lost voices and broken hearts of modern marriage. When you truly dive into your own story with the tools found in this book, and flush out the teachings and the blessings, your marriage and maybe even your life could be saved." -Jeffrey Duvall. Author of Men, Meaning and Prayer-The Reconciliation of Heart and Soul in Modern Manhood. "Shadow Marriage is wonderfully insightful and fully grounded at the same time! Dr. Dunion has encapsulated many years of experience into his text. You can feel the weight of each sentence as it comes off the page. This book will help anyone gain a deeper understanding of the inner workings of love and relationship." -Cliff Barry. Founder of Shadow Work Seminars.

First Published in 2000. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

In the extensive literature on couples and intimacy, little has been written about knowing and not knowing as people experience and understand them. Based on intensive interviews with thirty-seven adults, this book shows that knowing and not knowing are central to couple relationships. They are entangled in love, sexual attraction, trust, commitment, caring, empathy, decision making, conflict, and many other aspects of couple life. Often the entanglement is paradoxical. For example, many interviewees revealed that they hungered to be known and yet kept secrets from their partner. Many described working hard at knowing their partner well, and yet there were also things about their partner and their partner's past that they wanted not to know. This book's qualitative, phenomenological approach builds on and adds to the largely quantitative social psychological, communications and family field literature to offer a new and accessible insight into the experience of intimacy.

Provides a unique interdisciplinary approach to the science of intimate human relationships This newly updated edition of a popular text is the first to present a full-blooded interdisciplinary and theoretically coherent approach to the latest scientific findings relating to human sexual relationships. Written by recognized leaders in the field in a style that is rigorous yet accessible, it looks beyond the core knowledge in social and evolutionary psychology to incorporate material and perspectives from cognitive science (including brain-imaging studies), developmental psychology, anthropology, comparative psychology, clinical psychology, genetic research, sociology, and biology. Written by an international team of acclaimed experts in the field, The Science of Intimate Relationships offers a wealth of thought-provoking ideas and insights into the science behind the initiation, maintenance, and termination of romantic relationships. The 2nd Edition features two new chapters on health and relationships, and friends and family, both of which shed new light on the complex links among human nature, culture, and romantic love. It covers key topics such as mate selection, attachment theory, love, communication, sex, relationship dissolution, violence, mind-reading, and the relationship brain. Provides a coherent and theoretically integrative approach to the subject of intimate relationships Offers an interdisciplinary perspective that looks beyond social and evolutionary psychology to many other scientific fields of study Includes two new chapters on ‘Relationships and Health’ and ‘Friends and Family’, added in response to feedback from professors who have used the textbook with their classes Presented by recognized leaders in the field of relationships Features PowerPoint slides and an online Teaching Handbook The Science of Intimate Relationships, 2nd Edition is designed for upper-level undergraduate students of human sexuality, psychology, anthropology, and other related fields.

Intimate Relationships covers both classic and current material in a concise yet thorough and rigorous manner. Chapters range from attraction to love, attachment to jealousy, conflict to relationship dissolution — all written in a warm, personal, and engaging voice. Each chapter is organized around the major issues and relevant theories, in addition to a critical evaluation about the research. When appropriate, the authors discuss and evaluate popular ideas about relationship processes in the context of scientific research. This includes critical evaluations of evolutionary approaches to attraction, victim-based accounts of abuse, and the separate-cultures view of the sexes.

Intimate Relationships covers both classic and current material in a concise yet thorough and rigorous manner. Chapters range from attraction to love, attachment to jealousy, sexuality to conflict—all written in a warm, personal, and engaging voice. Topics are viewed from an interdisciplinary perspective firmly grounded in research. Examples and stories from everyday life lead into each chapter to stir a student’s engagement with the material, and critical thinking prompts throughout the text aid his or her reflection on the issues and theories presented. Each chapter is organized around major relationship issues and relevant theories, in addition to a critical evaluation of the research. When appropriate, the authors discuss and evaluate popular ideas about intimate relationships in the context of scientific research. This Third Edition has been thoroughly updated and revised to include the latest findings and topics in relationship science, including the role of the Internet in today’s relationships. Students will benefit from a revised chapter on sexuality that reflects current views on sexual orientation and sexual pathways, as well as a forward-looking chapter on the evolution and diversity of relationships in the 21st century. To support student learning, the new edition includes flashcards, learning objectives, and outlines for each chapter. A companion website accessible at www.routledge.com/cw/erber provides instructors with PowerPoint presentations and a test bank, and provides students with flashcards of key terms as well as learning outcomes and chapter outlines for each chapter.