The Couples Match Book

The process of finding and making the best possible match is not an easy one. On the contrary, from an emotional perspective finding, making, maintaining, and enriching an intimate partnership is one of the most challenging tasks an adult faces. There must be an attraction or a "spark" for a true match to be made. When a couple comes for counseling, they come with the hope that their relationship can be renewed-that they can capture the heat and the emotion that they once had together. The Couple's Match Book: Lighting, Rekindling, or Extinguishing the Flame explores relationship theory and research. Including self-assessment activities to help determine what actions to take to improve relationships, this guild offers information that focuses on understanding and respecting personality differences, role perceptions, communication, and problem-solving. The balance of the book shares personal stories written by couples detailing their own experiences in an effort to help others in improving their intimate relationships. The Couple's Match Book: Lighting, Rekindling, or Extinguishing the Flame can be used as a supplemental text in marriage and family courses, as well as a primary resource in couples counseling and marriage and family therapy.

Mixed matches are more complicated relationships than those between people from similar backgrounds. Often, the very qualities that attracted us to our partners ultimately lie at the roots of our most difficult problems. For even when partners don't feel a strong identification with their racial, religious, or cultural groups, they discover that their loyalty to the past goes deeper than they realized. Psychotherapist Joel Crohn has learned in years of counseling couples in cross-cultural relationships that how partners negotiate their cultural and religious differences is as important as what the difference are. Over time, the reserve of a Protestant wife can seem like emotional withholding to her Jewish husband, whose openness seems intrusive to her. An Asian father may feel his children need more discipline, while his American wife thinks they have it harder than she did. A black Trinidadian man is excited about the opportunities in the United States, while his Detroit-born black girlfriend thinks he's naive about racism. The methods in Mixed Matches have helped these and many other couples approach each other compassionately, teaching them to "translate" their different styles of expression and negotiate successful resolutions. Dr. Crohn also offers practical advice on how couples can confront prejudice and stereotypes, deal with in-laws, and help children achieve a sense of identity in a bicultural family.

Cassia has always trusted the Society to make the right choices for her: what to read, what to watch, what to believe. So when Xander's face appears on-screen at her Matching ceremony, Cassia knows with complete certainty that he is her ideal mate . . . until she sees Ky Markham's face flash for an instant before the screen fades to black. The Society tells her it's a glitch, a rare malfunction, and that she should focus on the happy life she's destined to lead with Xander. But Cassia can't stop thinking about Ky, and as they slowly fall in love, Cassia begins to doubt the Society's infallibility and is faced with an impossible choice: between Xander and Ky, between the only life she's known and a path that no one else has dared to follow. Look for CROSSED, the sequel to MATCHED, in Fall 2011! Watch a Video

What does it take to match into the specialty of your choice? This question is hotly debated and surveys of applicants and program directors find sharp divisions on the topic. In a recent survey, the authors concluded that "there are significant differences between program directors' and medical students' perceptions of which factors are important in the residency selection process" (Brandenburg 2005). In advising students over the years, we have come to realize that misperceptions abound, with applicants frequently overestimating or underestimating certain residency selection criteria. These misperceptions may result in a failure to match. From our own experiences as students, and in the process of counseling applicants, we know how difficult, anxiety-provoking, and mysterious the residency selection process is. In this book, we answer the question of what it takes to match successfully. We provide specific evidence-based advice to maximize your chances of a successful match. Who actually chooses the residents? We review the data on the decision makers. What do these decision makers care about? We review the data on the criteria that matter to them. How can you convince them that you would be the right resident for their program? We provide concrete, practical recommendations based on this data. At every step of the process, our recommendations are meant to maximize the impact of your application. Utilizing a unique combination of evidence-based advice and an insiders' perspective, this book will help you achieve your ultimate goal: The Successful Match.

Canadian Edition, revised and updated From first-time newlyweds to people on their second marriage, couples face an overwhelming task when it comes to money management. Internationally renowned financial advisor and bestselling author David Bach knows that it doesn’t have to be this way. In Smart Couples Finish Rich, he provides couples with easy-to-use tools that cover everything from credit-card management to investment advice to long-term care. From this updated, newly revised Canadian edition, couples will learn how to work together as a team to identify their core values and dreams, and to create a financial plan that will allow them to achieve security, provide for their family’s future financial needs, and increase their income.

In the 2007 Match, over 40% of U.S. senior applicants failed to match with the residency program of their choice. In competitive fields such as dermatology, ophthalmology, plastic surgery, and urology, over 30% of U.S. senior applicants failed to match at all. The numbers are significantly worse for osteopathic and international medical graduates. In fact, in the 2008 Match, over 5,000 international medical graduates failed to match. Regardless of your chosen specialty, the key to a successful match hinges on the development of a well thought out strategy. This book will show you how to develop the optimal strategy for success. Learn how you can upgrade your credentials, write high-impact personal statements, solicit strong letters of recommendation, shine during interviews, and much more. This book is an invaluable resource to help you gain that extra edge. Featuring discussion of these issues and more, this book will provide you with specific, concrete recommendations that will maximize your chances of achieving the ultimate goal: that of a successful match.

A great new way to inject variety and excitement into a couple's love life, "Sex Mix" takes the popular split-page design usually found only in kids' and joke books and unleashes it on the world of erotic pleasures. The top half of each page offers a tantalizing foreplay idea and the bottom half presents an erotic position. However, since the halves are "not" connected, couples can flip the tops and bottoms of pages separately to create thousands of exciting sexual combinations. The book's mix-and-match format allows a couple to enjoy a single unpredictable night of flip-open fun or years of fresh, exciting sex. With dozens of foreplay ideas such as sensual massage and daring role play and positions ranging from the relatively tame to the ultra-stimulating, "Sex Mix" helps couples discover what really turns them on.

I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship.M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled A remarkable bookthe most incisive and persuasive I have ever read on the knotty problems of marriage relationships. Ann Roberts, former president, Rockefeller Family Fund

Named a Best Book of Summer by Refinery29, Bustle, and PopSugar “The best rom-com of the season…overflowing with charm and heart.” —Bustle “The perfect Summer read—smart, funny, escapist, and bursting with charm.” —PopSugar In the tradition of Good in Bed and The Assistants comes a funny and smart comedy about a young matchmaker balancing her messy personal life and the demands of her eccentric clients. Sasha Goldberg has a lot going for her: a recent journalism degree from NYU, an apartment with her best friend Caroline, and a relationship that would be amazing if her finance-bro boyfriend Jonathan would ever look up from his BlackBerry. But when her dream career falls through, she uses her family’s darkest secret to land a job as a matchmaker for New York City’s elite at the dating service Bliss. Despite her inexperience, Sasha throws herself into her new career, trolling for catches on Tinder, coaching her clients through rejection, and dishing out dating advice to people twice her age. She sets up a TV exec who wanted kids five years ago, a forty-year-old baseball-loving virgin, and a consultant with a rigorous five-page checklist for her ideal match. Sasha hopes to find her clients The One, like she did. But when Jonathan betrays her, she spirals out of control—and right into the arms of a writer with a charming Southern drawl, who she had previously set up with one of her clients. He’s strictly off-limits, but with her relationship on the rocks, all bets are off. Fresh, sweet, and laugh-out-loud funny, Playing with Matches is the addictive story about dating in today’s swipe-heavy society, and a young woman trying to find her own place in the world.