The Child Support Battle

Updated and revised with seven new chapters, a new introduction, and a new resources section, this landmark book is invaluable for women facing a custody battle. It was the first to break the myth that mothers receive preferential treatment over fathers in custody disputes. Although mothers generally retain custody when fathers choose not to fight for it, fathers who seek custody often win—not because the mother is unfit or the father has been the primary caregiver but because, as Phyllis Chesler argues, women are held to a much higher standard of parenting. Incorporating findings from years of research, hundreds of interviews, and international surveys about child-custody arrangements, Chesler argues for new guidelines to resolve custody disputes and to prevent the continued oppression of mothers in custody situations. This book provides a philosophical and psychological perspective as well as practical advice from one of the country’s leading matrimonial lawyers. Both an indictment of a discriminatory system and a call to action over motherhood under siege, Mothers on Trial is essential reading for anyone concerned either personally or professionally with custody rights and the well-being of the children involved.

The Knowledge Every Man Needs for a Successful Divorce Each year 500,000 men will face divorce, and most of them make at least one crucial—and often irreversible—mistake. These errors might seem minor, such as moving out while things get sorted out, or thinking of “temporary” orders as being truly temporary. But when they get to court, these men discover they have put themselves in a terrible position. They may have to give up their house, pay impossibly high alimony, or even lose custody. You could be one of these men. But you don’t have to be. Joseph Cordell, the founder of the nation’s largest law firm focusing on men’s divorce and the creator of the Dads Divorce website, has seen the consequences of the mistakes men make. Drawing upon the huge number of cases that Cordell & Cordell has handled, this book identifies the 10 most common mistakes that end up hurting men in divorce. Cordell demystifies the divorce process, explains what judges consider in making their final decisions, and lays out a road map for positive actions men can take to achieve the best possible outcome. No man should face divorce without this book.

The Child Support Battle shows child support payers how to legitimately reduce or suspend their child support without the worry of being denied by the judicial courts. The book gives the child support payer step-by-step methods that, if done correctly, will save a lot of money, time and effort without the use of a lawyer. It also shows them how to legally earn money using the child support system. There are no laws that govern completely how or what support funds are to be used for. Therefore, one must still be able to control their garnishments. After interviewing several custody and divorce lawyers, as well as court-appointed officials concerning child support, John took all of this information and compiled it into a readable, yet doable informational book, The Child Support Battle. The Child Support Battle is a comprehensive easy-to-read book that is directed at any individual regardless of the circumstances or state or city in which they reside. The book is not only for men and fathers. It is for anyone, including women and mothers, who want to know about child support and the reduction and suspension process. It is written for the parents who want to take full responsibility for their children, yet not have all of their funds garnished at the same time. The Child Support Battle was also created to give the support paying parent information that the government, free legal advice agencies and other free organizations would not provide.

I also explore the importance of self-awareness and the role it plays in our ability to navigate challenging situations. By understanding our own emotions and motivations, we can make better decisions and take control of our lives. Overall, my book is a powerful exploration of the challenges faced by parents navigating the child support system, as well as the importance of self-awareness in overcoming those challenges. I hope that it will inspire and empower readers to take control of their lives and navigate the challenges they face with confidence and resilience.

Explaining complex family law concepts and procedures in a jargon-free style, this resource includes detailed information on how family court works, offers easily understandable case examples, and describes alternatives to litigation that are designed to help prevent families with children from entering the legal system to resolve disputes. Exploring subjects that apply to all parties involved in resolving separation, divorce, and custody conflictsjudges, lawyers, mediators, parenting coaches, psychologists, family counselors, and social workersthis reference demystifies the role of lawyers and judges, debunks the myth that parents can represent themselves in court, and examines each parents responsibility to ensure that post-separation conflicts are resolved with minimal emotional stress to children.

Keeping a journal for Child Custody. Getting a divorce is often a complicated process, which becomes even more complicated when there are children involved. By keeping a journal for child custody, you will smoothen the entire process, and reduce the stress involved on you and your child. The journal will also be extremely useful to your attorney, and will often be used by the court to help with the process. Documenting the process should become a habit; and this journal is the ultimate tool to developing this habit. EVERYTHING that happens to your child, whether good, bad, or neutral should be recorded and dated. Ones memory will often fail to hold up in court when in court or mediation in regards to child custody. What this journal contains: Visitation planner: The visitation planner at the beginning of the diary contains space for you to quickly plan your visitations. This information is crucial for keeping to agreed upon times and dates and should be recorded as soon as each agreement is made, to avoid any later disputes. Input sections for: Date Pick up and drop off time Pick up and drop off location Communication Log: A communication log is one of the most important aspects of keeping a journal for child custody. It ensures that you are protected and prepared for all agreements and conversations that will happen between the other parent, lawyer etc. Inputs include: Time, date, start time and length of conversation Nature of the conversation, who initiated it, what was covered Main points raised Additional information Visitation log: Visitation is often one of the trickiest parts of managing child custody. The visitation log in this journal is designed to ensure both parties uphold their agreements that were made in regards to visitation, and that the child's best interests are kept at the forefront of the agreements. Other notes: A section for any other notes related to child custody. Remember: everything related to this process should be recorded. Any information that may not fit into the other sections should be written here. It may include things such as your child's mood after a visit, something your child says about their other parent etc. This section will be used almost every day used correctly, with each note dated as instructed. If any other sections should run out, continue to use this section. Tips for keeping this journal: As well as the information included above, the journal contains tips about how best to keep this journal. Book Features: 8.5 x 11 inch in size 120 total pages - Multiple 'sections' per page (Should last around 1 year) Perfect bound with a beautiful soft matte cover Printed on white bleedproof paper Durable Tips for keeping a child custody journal Remain Balanced - stay objective: While you want to do everything you can to get custody of your children, make sure you also write down the good things the other parent does. Remember, this is about what is best for your children, not what is best for you or for the other parent. NEVER LIE OR FALSIFY INFORMATION or you will ultimately lose the battle in court. Include Smaller Details Don't forget to include the smaller, everyday details with your custody journal. Specifically, you'll want to take note of: Comments your child makes about the other parent (Positive and negative)

Discusses a variety of issues concerning child custody, including court structures, living arrangements, recommendations on avoiding court battles, and advice on working with lawyers.

What About Me? The 17 Million Children in Child Support encourages child support practitioners and parents to collaborate for the sake of their child. With the rise in single parenting, the child support agency has the authority, programs, and services that can support co-parents' efforts to collaborate to improve child outcomes. With one in four U.S. children receiving child support services, there are 17 million reasons to collaborate. What About Me? provides tips to child support workers and encourages parents to take responsibility for the gaps in their processes and relationships. Shortly after I became a statewide child support director, my office received a call from a local police officer requesting a file for an active child support case. It contained evidence of a fierce child support and custody battle between the co-parents. The father had just shot and killed the mother of their child before turning the gun on himself in the parking lot of their child's day care. Instantly, the child became an orphan as she played safely inside. This book is intended to help parents and practitioners avoid the stress of participating in the child support system-not avoid their responsibility to their child.

The norm for me was but the latest juicy update for them—family, friends, coworkers, whoever would listen. My life felt like a reality show, and I an open book. The ongoing turmoil was so bizarre people were disturbed one individual was capable of such magnitude. From alcohol to drugs to domestic violence (all in excess), police involvement was nothing short of expected. Lies upon lies, his narcissism gave me skyrocketing anxiety.As an ethical, godly person myself, I struggled to comprehend the predicament I was in. Surely this was not my best life. Along with his abuse, I racked my own brain asking, “What am I supposed to learn from all of this?” Maybe if I knew, I could move past this phase. But certain lessons can only be fully understood the hard way.If I could go back in time and alter the past, I would not change a thing. As tormenting as it was, I lost battles (for sure), but I won the war. I am in a far better place than I ever imagined. I have grown leaps and bounds in many facets of life. Everything truly happens for a reason.One day it hit me: turn a negative (-) into a positive (+), hence Baby Daddy from Hellwas born. In this book based on a true story, I will take you on a journey of laughter, tears, and righteous anger while I share with you how to do the following:● Establish boundaries● Prepare for court● Handle harassment● Put children first● Divertarguments● Make hard choices● Redirect emotions● Stay the courseIt is liberating to know if I can survive that and come out on top, nothing is impossible. The word itself says “I’m possible.” Don’t make the same mistake I did; don’t be naive. Take initiative and educate yourself. Knowledge is power. Better to be safe than sorry. You never know what the future holds.