The Angry Therapist

Tackling relationships, career, and family issues, John Kim, LMFT, thinks of himself as a life-styledesigner, not a therapist. His radical new approach, that he sometimes calls “self-help in a shot glass” is easy, real, and to the point. He helps people make changes to their lives so that personal growth happens organically, just by living. Let’s face it, therapy is a luxury. Few of us have the time or money to devote to going to an office every week. With anecdotes illustrating principles in action (in relatable and sometimes irreverent fashion) and stand-alone practices and exercises, Kim gives readers the tools and directions to focus on what's right with them instead of what's wrong. When John Kim was going through the end of a relationship, he began blogging as The Angry Therapist, documenting his personal journey post-divorce. Traditional therapists avoid transparency, but Kim preferred the language of "me too" as opposed to "you should." He blogged about his own shortcomings, revelations, views on relationships, and the world. He spoke a different therapeutic language —open, raw, and at times subversive — and people responded. The Angry Therapist blog, that inspired this book, has been featured in The Atlantic Monthly and on NPR.

The Angry Therapist who has helped thousands of men find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives now shares his insights with everyone in this powerful guide—self-help in a shotglass—covering essential topics, from vulnerability and posturing to workouts and women. Deep in post-divorce soul searching, John Kim came to an astonishing realization: he was a miserable f*ck who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. Armed with this new insight, he began The Angry Therapist blog—an admission that, while he was a licensed therapist and life coach, he was no better than the people who sought his advice. In his first post, “My Fucking Feelings,” he wrote about the struggles and shortcomings that had led him to this point. As his work caught on, catapulting him into the role of unlikely and unconventional guide for thousands of people all over the world, Kim evolved from behaving like a boy to living like a man—and showed his clients how to do so as well. In I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, Kim delivers the dos and don’ts for stepping up and into manhood, which he defines by transparency and strength of character, not six-pack abs or a corner office. With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and think, Kim takes you on a rugged, rough and tumble road trip of self-exploration and discovery, sharing his wisdom and insights, such as why: Being nice is for boys, and being kind is for men Scheduling man dates could make you a better friend, lover, and human being Peeing in the shower is a sign of a larger problem Arguing, judging, and answering, “I dunno” are keeping you from a healthy relationship, a great career, and a happy life We are not born men. We are born boys. The transition from misery to meaning is an internal process that requires work: reflection, pain, courage, and sometimes, a rebirth. Kim knows because he’s been there. The truth is, men weren’t meant to just pay bills and die. With this book as your guide, you will love hard, walk tall, and find a life filled with purpose and passion.

Provides information for mental health practitioners on the basics of anger and anger disorder, and describes an anger management program that can be modified for use in private practice or institutional settings.

Do you find yourself: • Becoming so angry you have trouble thinking? • Acting impulsively during angry outbursts? • Getting so mad that you feel out of control of your actions? If these strong, sudden bursts of anger sound all too familiar, you know the impact they have over your life. Over time, these responses can actually hard-wire our brains to respond angrily in situations that normally wouldn’t cause us to lose our cool. These anger pathways in the brain can eventually disrupt your work, strain your relationships, and even damage your health. Written by anger management expert Ronald Potter-Efron, Healing the Angry Brain can help you short-circuit the anger cycle and learn to calmly handle even the most stressful interactions. You will learn which areas of your brain are causing your reactions and discover how to take control of your emotions by rewiring your brain for greater patience and perspective. This fascinating, scientific approach to anger management will yield long-term results, helping you develop greater empathy and put effective conflict resolution skills into practice for years to come.

Don't let anger harm your health, career, and relationships: “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger—and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world-renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: The rational and irrational aspects of anger Special insights into your self-angering beliefs How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger How to relax How to accept yourself with your anger . . and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.

CBT skills for coping with angry thoughts, expressing your emotions, and putting an end to angry outbursts—once and for all. Being a young man is tough, and you’re not always equipped to deal with the ongoing challenges of school, work, family, and relentless peer pressure. First of all, it’s not all your fault. Our society encourages boys to repress their emotions—both positive and negative. You may have been told to “suck it up,” or “just be a man.” But burying your emotions can make it extremely difficult to express yourself, be heard, and feel like your needs are being met. The result is a frustration that builds and boils over into anger. The good news is there’s an easy-to-learn method for managing your anger and expressing your emotions in a healthy way. Written by an expert in anger with decades of experience working with teens, this book provides you with the tools you need for effective anger management, as well as essential skills for getting in touch with and communicating your thoughts and feelings. You’ll learn to understand the emotions that trigger anger, build up your emotional vocabulary to better express your feelings, and focus on the positive. You’ll also discover anger-reduction techniques to stay cool when anger intensifies, so you put out the fire and get to a place of calm. This workbook is packed with tips and tricks to help you: Replace unhelpful anger with clear communication Break the habit of catastrophizing and personalizing Reduce the overwhelming physiological response of anger Channel the positive power of anger With the right tools, you can take charge of your anger—and your life. This workbook will show you how. In these increasingly challenging times, kids and teens need mental health resources more than ever. With more than 1.6 million copies sold worldwide, Instant Help Books are easy to use, proven-effective, and recommended by therapists.

If you’ve picked up this book, chances are you’re someone with a serious anger problem. Your explosive temper has probably cost you jobs, friends, loved ones—maybe even your liberty. If it hasn’t yet, it soon will, unless you do something about it. This book contains a powerful and straightforward system for taking control of your anger and your life. This program is not easy, and it might even be painful at times—but it works. The book will teach you how your anger escalates and what you can do to change your angry thoughts and behaviors. Then it’s your turn. When you make and keep that promise to yourself to stay calm no matter what, the happier, safer life you want will become a possibility. With this book, you'll be able to: •Identify the causes of your anger •Avoid violence, blaming, and threats •Stay calm one day at a time •Change anger-provoking thoughts •Ask for what you want without anger

In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

An empowering book designed to encourage youth to handle their anger before their anger handles them.

The Fear of Doing Nothing is a critique of psychotherapy through the lens of a young practitioner training in the field. Hazanov recounts the stories of the most moving, challenging, and memorable patients he worked with during his 6 years of training. This book follows him from the beginning of his training, at the peak of his doubt and skepticism, to its end, where he finally starts to believe in psychotherapy. This is a book for an intelligent and skeptical reader who is not convinced that psychotherapy is a worthwhile endeavor and questions its usefulness and merit. In the book, the author attempts to understand what can and cannot be achieved in psychotherapy and reflects on its place today.