Stop Bullying Yourself

If you wouldn’t bully someone else, why bully yourself? Learn how to stop beating yourself up—and start building a better life. Stop Bullying Yourself is an all-inclusive approach that can help you move toward health, wealth, better relationships, and overall happiness—by defeating that destructive voice inside your head that puts a limit on your goals, dreams, and success. And as a bonus, once you learn to crowd out the inner bully that lives inside your mind, with tools such as eliminating negative thinking and examining the little choices, external bullies will not have the power they once had either. It’s time to treat yourself with kindness, patience, and love, and discover what a difference it can make.

Bestselling authors Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers show women how to take their self-bullying Inner Mean Girls to reform school with their internationally recognized seven-step program. There is a silent epidemic spreading like wildfire among women—and no one seems to be talking about it. It’s in our boardrooms, classrooms, and living rooms on every continent, and it’s creating depression, stress, and isolation. Who is this culprit? Meet your Inner Mean Girl, the judgmental, critical, and belittling inner bully that almost every woman hears running through her mind on a daily basis. The Inner Mean Girl creates undue anxiety, cajoles you into making bad choices, and then berates you when they don’t work out. But there is a cure. Reform Your Inner Mean Girl introduces the universal seven-step program that helps women transform their relationships with themselves from self-sabotage to self-love. With a mix of play, humor, creativity, and self-inquiry, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl transforms a woman’s self-bullying thoughts, emotions, actions, and feelings, and helps her get in touch with a much more powerful voice—her Inner Wisdom. After graduating, women can finally make choices that create more happiness, peace, love, and success.

'Exactly the book you need if you are feeling intimidated by a bully.' Workplace bullying can be a toxic experience. It can lead to plummeting self-esteem, destroy your self-confidence, and impair your ability to perform. But the good news is there is no need for expensive and risky legal action - which you might not even win - or a stressful formal complaint. You don't have to leave your job, either. Discover how to protect yourself from grooming and bullying. Learn how to defend yourself at the time of an attack. Re-gain your self-confidence and self-esteem following the devastation of bullying. This practical guide includes real-life examples and proven strategies which will stop bullying in its tracks. It is packed full of tactics, insight and empathy which will benefit you if you have experienced workplace bullying, or if you are concerned that you may be targeted in the future. It includes how to: - Recognise and defeat bullying behaviour simply and straightforwardly. - Understand the bullying dynamic, and learn how to alter it in your favour. - Respond effectively to a range of bullying tactics including slander, gossip, rage, lies and innuendo. - Defend yourself when your performance is questioned as part of a bullying campaign. - Respond effectively when a bullying team member opposes your authority on principle. - ...and much more. 'A must read for anyone who is being bullied or who needs to recover from workplace bullying.' Aryanne Oade has worked as a chartered psychologist for over twenty years. She coaches clients to recover from the debilitating effects of workplace bullying, and to re-discover their energy and enthusiasm. She is the bestselling author of six books. www.oadeassociates.com "This is a brilliant, insightful guide and toolbox for managing, escaping and recovering from bullying in the workplace...essential reading." PROFESSOR DONAL MACINTYRE Investigative Journalist and Broadcaster; Visiting Professor, School of Applied Criminology, Birmingham City University "This is a seriously courageous - and much-needed - book. Aryanne .... gracefully empowers the bullied to take responsibility for resolving the situation without in any way 'blaming the victim'." BENNIE NAUDE International Energy Psychology Expert "Easy-to-read and practical, this book gives effective, realistic help for those who are being bullied... The extensive toolkit provides a myriad of ideas for tackling bullying situations." PROFESSOR CHARLOTTE RAYNER Outgoing President: International Association of Workplace Bullying and Harassment "This is exactly the book you need if you are feeling intimidated by a bully at work, are involved in HR or L&D, or are managing staff." TRACY WRAY Deputy HR Director, Sheffield University "This very readable book is from an author with real insight into this difficult area. The book is full of practical tools to assist the reader to regain their power from the bully in a professional and dignified way." JACKIE GREEN FCIPD former HR Director for Leeds Teaching Hospitals NHS Trust and Royal Liverpool and Broadgreen University Hospitals "Aryanne's insightful book is an invaluable aid and toolkit to understanding, addressing and overcoming bullying behaviour." STEVE MOON former Head of Energy, Global Project Finance, Bank of Ireland "Aryanne ...adroitly and sensitively highlights the nuanced character of bullying, sharing with readers an empowering set of tools through which to address it." DR PREMILLA D'CRUZ Professor of Organizational Behaviour at Indian Institute of Management Ahmedabad "I wish I'd had this book to hand early in my career... This book will provide a treasure trove of useful information and help for anyone suffering from - or having suffered - bullying." JOHN ALLISON former General Manager of a large publishing company"

When you look in the mirror and only see your flaws, it can be hard to be your best self. FLAWD is your new cheerleader—an energetic guide to seeing your flaws as the doorway to something more. Through dynamic stories and advice from teens and celebrities around the world, FLAWD will help you to: · SEE yourself as perfectly imperfect. · TREAT life as playfully as possible. · THINK about what really matters. · EMBRACE all that makes you, YOU. · UNDERSTAND influence and how to use it. · KNOW you can be part of a flawd and powerful transformation. Even though we exist in a culture that thrives on bullying us into believing we're never good enough as we are, FLAWD affirms that you are good enough, ready enough and important enough to be a flawd light in the world. Are you ready to become fearless with your flaws and change the world by being yourself? Then FLAWD is the book for you. “Not only does Emily-Anne have strong convictions and a beautiful soul, but she has taken action against bullying. Her actions have had such an immediate and enormous impact on the world already.” —Lady Gaga

While other children were daydreaming about dances, first kisses, and college, Jodee Blanco was trying to figure out how to go from homeroom to study hall without being taunted or spit upon as she walked through the halls. This powerful, unforgettable memoir chronicles how one child was shunned—and even physically abused—by her classmates from elementary school through high school. It is an unflinching look at what it means to be the outcast, how even the most loving parents can get it all wrong, why schools are often unable to prevent disaster, and how bullying has been misunderstood and mishandled by the mental health community. You will be shocked, moved, and ultimately inspired by this harrowing tale of survival against insurmountable odds. This vivid story will open your eyes to the harsh realities and long-term consequences of bullying—and how all of us can make a difference in the lives of teens today.

What if you could stop selling altogether and grow your profits? With The Serving Mindset, you’ll learn how to serve, elevate your business success, and feel great about it! Targeted to business owners and entrepreneurs who are very good at what they do but feel guilt and shame around selling and sales and therefore limit their own success and overall possibilities, The Serving Mindset: Stop Selling and Grow Your Business positions selling as serving and takes readers through the process of why and how to acquire this “serving mindset” and put it into practice. For readers who hate sales, The Serving Mindset will help you diagnose the source of the issue, understand how your mindset affects your sales directly, and discover a fresh approach to selling as serving—an essential lesson for enabling any business to explore maximum levels of prosperity. Using case studies as well as the experience of the author and that of her professional-coaching clients, The Serving Mindset is sure to change how readers view selling, serving, and growing. The powerful insights and applications in this book are game-changers for every business owner and entrepreneur who wants to attract and secure ideal customers and premium clients while maintaining integrity to his or her own core values.

Have you ever watched someone being bullied or have you ever been the target of bullying yourself? Our usual response to bullying is to fight back, run away, or ignore it and try to be the better person while the bully has their way. But what if you knew of another alternative? One that didn’t invite more aggression…one that puts you in control of the situation so that you do not lose face in front of peers…one that helps you diffuse or even handle the bully outright while you stand your ground? In this book you are going to learn:  How not to think or react like a victim  How to stand up for yourself if you are an intended target of bullying or violence  How to stand up for others as the bystander  How to break the cycle of self-sabotage that causes aggressive behavior or bullying If you have children in school— If you are a teacher, school administrator, or someone that plays a role in the life of a child— If you have ever felt hopeless and out of options— If you want to know how to be assertive without being violent, this book is definitely for you. Put control back into your life. Learn to be an assertive, effective Hero!

This book includes 101 tried-and-tested strategies to deal with bullying. This is a practical workbook full of information and ideas on how to stop being bullied. It contains 101 ideas grouped into five sections: practical and everyday ideas; longer term ideas; cyberbullying; fun ideas; and advanced techniques. In addition, there is information on creating and updating an anti-bullying policy, warm-up games and activities for groupwork, as well as stories of bullying and their resolutions. This is an extremely useful resource for people who get bullied, teachers, health care professionals and parents. Suitable for all ages. Andy Hickson is Director of Actionwork UK. Andy is a theatre Director and has had shows performed at the Globe, Sadlers Wells, Norwich Playhouse and many venues abroad. Andy specialises in using creative action methods to explore violence and other issues. Andy is also a filmmaker and was a runner-up in the 2008 Motorola film competition. Writing credits include Creative Action Methods in Groupwork which is translated into Polish and Japanese, and The Groupwork Manual (also published by Speechmark) and numerous articles and chapters. Andy is currently finishing off his PhD in education.