Its Not Him Its You

In this no-nonsense guide to improving your love life, celebrated relationship therapist Dr. Laura Berman helps women who are looking to break up with bad relationship patterns. Berman offers sage advice, touching personal stories, and the psychological evaluation you need to achieve long-lasting romance and sexual satisfaction. It's Not Him, It's You! is perfect for any woman who wants to take control of her love life and create the relationship she deserves. This book is ideal for single women having trouble finding love, as well as women already in relationships with challenges to overcome. Berman gives her reader the tools for everlasting love by identifying their damaging thought patterns, overcoming self-blame and lack of confidence, and acknowledging bad relationship choices so they're never repeated. Whether you’re looking to rejuvenate your marriage or embark on the love journey of a lifetime It’s Not Him, It’s You empowers women not wait for a man to fix things, but to be the change they want to see in their relationships.

From the Introduction: This book is research-based—and what the research shows is this: The real problem isn't dating, or men. The problem is that during the early stages of dating, women unknowingly make one or more fundamental mistakes that hinder their ability to date successfully and find the man of their dreams. This book will identify each of these Top 10 mistakes, and show you how to fix them. With Dr. Christie Hartman as your guide, you'll learn how to put this groundbreaking research to work for you. You'll learn that you, as a woman: Have the advantage over men in the dating world Should make the first move with men—not wait for them to act Can detect if a guy is truly interested in you, even before you go out with him Anyone can tell you to avoid sex on the first date, or to wear a skirt, or to flirt a lot. This book gives you what you really need: the research-based strategies you need to make dating work for you—and find the happiness you deserve!

New Year's Eve. The most overrated night of the year, right? I have to get through a night of enforced fun, drink all the prosecco and talk about new beginnings. But I don't want new beginnings. I want my old beginning back. It's been ten days, two hours and forty-three minutes since Tansy got dumped. Two heartbreaking weeks since Renzo, who made her weak at the knees and dizzy with excitement, found out Tansy's secret - and ended it on the spot. Since then, she's spent every evening scrolling through their old photos, drunk texted him twenty-six times (he stopped reading after five), and lost count of how many packets of Kleenex she's cried her way through. That's where Operation Get Renzo Back comes in. She ropes in a new wing-woman, maxes out her credit card and accidentally-on-purpose bumps into him at every opportunity. Oh, and she finds a fake boyfriend, as you do... But while she's busy pretending, Tansy's plan is thrown a major curveball. She has to learn the hard way that it's not her, it's him - and that sometimes, a break-up can end up being the making of you. A fresh, funny and fabulous novel for anyone who has been dumped, got a post-break-up haircut, stalked an ex on Facebook, and then realised they were WAY better off without them. Fans of Sophie Kinsella, Lindsey Kelk and Matt Dunn will love this laugh-out-loud read.

Two therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership. Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships right—avoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they “found themselves” first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up won’t fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last? It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which we’re still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didn’t truly wake up until he was pushing 40. In It’s Not Me, It’s You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond. The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. It’s more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots don’t grow from wishful thinking—they grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding. It’s Not Me, It’s You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.

A laugh-out-loud look at one girl's epic dating history, as told by her friends, family, and foes! Did you hear...?NATALIE WAGNER, random freshman: Avery Dennis--the Avery Dennis--got dumped right before prom.COCO KIM, best friend: Avery has never been dumped! Well, okay, except for this one time.BIZZY STANHOPE, officially the worst: The head of the prom committee doesn't have a date to the prom. It is beyond pathetic. JAMES "HUTCH" HUTCHERSON, lab partner: Did Avery really swear off dating until she discovers why her relationships never work out? I'll believe that when I see it.ROBBY MONROE, ex-boyfriend: Did you get interviewed by Avery Dennis for her project?TRIPP GOMEX-PARKER, ex-boyfriend: Avery Dennis is straight-up interviewing everyone.AVERY DENNIS: recently dumped/topic of much gossip: Okay. Everyone is talking about it, so let's talk about it...From rising star Stephanie Kate Strohm, this is a laugh-out-loud look at one girl's epic dating history, as told by her friends, family, and foes.

An achingly funny story about how to be your own hero when life pulls the rug out from under your feet...

From Alice and Abe to Zeb and Zipper, an alphabetical array of guests turns out for the biggest birthday party ever. But Hooper Humperdink isn’t on the guest list!

Ruth "Ruthless" Harper is on the verge of becoming managing partner at her all-male consulting firm and she won't let anything stand in her way. That includes men, relationships, and that dreaded F word, FEELINGS--distractions she eliminated long ago. After the worst day ever (a near-death experience and a public wedgie, for starters), Ruth realizes she doesn't want to live and die alone. She puts together a business plan to find the perfect man and dives head first into the murky online dating pool. All she wants is a high-powered executive who understands how important her career is. If only it were that easy. Problem is most men are intimidated by Ruth's confidence and shocked by her bluntness. The exception being her landscape designer, Nick, whose cool demeanor and unsolicited dating advice are driving her nuts. He's the antithesis of the business-oriented man Ruth envisions for herself, so why do all signs keep pointing back to him?

From the USA Today bestselling author of the Brennan Sisters novels comes a heartwarming story about finding love and strength, even in the darkest moments… In the wake of a tragedy that tore her life down to the foundations, Dr. Alison McAdams has lost her way. So when she’s summoned to Napa to care for her ailing father, she’s not sure she has anything to offer him—or anyone else. What Ali finds in Northern California wine country is a gift—an opportunity to rest, and distance from her painful memories. Most unexpectedly, she finds people who aren’t afraid of her grief or desperate for her to hurry up and move on. As Ali becomes part of her father’s community, makes new friends of her own, and hears the stories of a generation who survived the Second World War, she begins to find hope again. In a quest to discover the truth about another woman’s lost love, she sets off on a journey across oceans and deep into history. And in making sense of that long-ago tragedy, Ali is able to put together the broken pieces of her heart and make new choices that are right for her.

"BUST’s hilarious Queen of Crosswords now has men squarely in her crosshairs.” - Emily Rems, Managing Editor, BUST Magazine For every woman who has pulled her hair out trying to explain—for the 46th time—the importance of putting the toilet seat down, there’s a man snickering, “Someone's on the rag.” And this book is for that justifiably furious gal. The war between the sexes has raged for millennia, and It's Not PMS, It's You! is a hilarious, take-no-prisoners reconnaissance mission into the minds and souls of men and the things they do to infuriate women. Beginning with a completely scientific, fairly non-hormonal look at the history of the term “on the rag” and ending with the “Diary of a Break Up in One Full Menstrual Cycle,” this lighthearted guide looks at: Who should fund the medical research into why men do what they do. (Hint: It's definitely NOT the government) - How to take a lesson from Hamlet’s poor in-law management (Not to self: Don’t kill your future father-in-law) - Why men hate to talk about their feelings (with four separate mentions of the word “penis”) - An absolutely foolproof method for sustaining a long-term relationship, and why it could kill you