How To Love A Black Woman

Using dozens of real-life examples, Dr Ronn Elmore attempts to empower men to relate more honestly to black women by achieving true intimacy, and also aims to inspire women to expect a higher level of loving.

In this analysis of social history, examine the complex lineage of America's oppression of Black companionship. According to the 2010 US census, more than seventy percent of Black women in America are unmarried. Black Women, Black Love reveals how four centuries of laws, policies, and customs have created that crisis. Dianne Stewart begins in the colonial era, when slave owners denied Blacks the right to marry, divided families, and, in many cases, raped enslaved women and girls. Later, during Reconstruction and the ensuing decades, violence split up couples again as millions embarked on the Great Migration north, where the welfare system mandated that women remain single in order to receive government support. And no institution has forbidden Black love as effectively as the prison-industrial complex, which removes Black men en masse from the pool of marriageable partners. Prodigiously researched and deeply felt, Black Women, Black Love reveals how white supremacy has systematically broken the heart of Black America, and it proposes strategies for dismantling the structural forces that have plagued Black love and marriage for centuries.

Speaker, writer, and producer Trey Anthony breaks it down, giving black women a relatable voice and personalized "keeping it real" to-do list on how to practice self-love and self-care. Therapy is not just for white women-no matter what your momma told you! After a lifetime of never truly relating to the personal development experts because of the color of her skin, Trey Anthony has written the book she needed to read as a black woman trying to navigate a world filled with unique challenges that often acts like she doesn't exist. On the outside Trey Anthony was the overachieving, reliable, and strong black woman she was raised to be, but on the inside the pressure of sacrificing her own needs to please others was building. When her grandmother and mother raised her strong, they also unknowingly taught her that self-love and expressing emotions were weak, creating an unhealthy dynamic that had Trey facing burnout and rock bottom. In Black Girl in Love (with Herself), Trey breaks down the lessons and tools that she used to heal her life, including how to: • Set clear and healthy boundaries-even with the people who raised you • Quit being the family ATM • Sort out who is a real friend, and who is just there for parties and gossip • Confront microaggressions at work without missing a beat • Forget who black women are "supposed" to be And fall in love with yourself!

The author writes an open "love letter" to the African American women in his life, proclaiming his adoration and respect for women of color in America.

Symona Brown is a 37-year old Jamaican British woman living in South London looking for her Mr. Right whilst her biological clock loudly ticks on. She announces to her close girlfriends after a boozy Sunday brunch, that she is ready to up her game and start actively dating, to their surprise and delight. After being consciously single for a number of years, Symona remembers what worked and what definitely did not in the dating arena. This time, she knows who she is and what she wants. As Symona reflects through her memories from one Mr. to another, she reveals her sensual, hilarious and downright frustrating encounters. She finds herself asking, "What does it mean to be a Black woman trying to exist, date and find love?" In her pursuit of love, she learns new lessons and different answers. Will these new revelations get her what she wants?

Major Health Crisis Among Black Women Generated from Systemic Racism “Marita Golden’s The Strong Black Woman busts the myth that Black women are fierce and resilient by letting the reader in under the mask that proclaims ‘Black don’t crack.’” ―Karen Arrington, coach, mentor, philanthropist, and author of NAACP Image Award-winning Your Next Level Life Sarton Women’s Book Award #1 New Release in Reference Meet Black women who have learned through hard lessons the importance of self-care and how to break through the cultural and family resistance to seeking therapy and professional mental health care. The Strong Black Woman Syndrome. For generations, in response to systemic racism, Black women and African American culture created the persona of the Strong Black Woman, a woman who, motivated by service and sacrifice, handles, manages, and overcomes any problem, any obstacle. The syndrome calls on Black women to be the problem-solvers and chief caretakers for everyone in their lives―never buckling, never feeling vulnerable, and never bothering with their pain. Hidden mental health crisis of anxiety and depression. To be a Black woman in America is to know you cannot protect your children or guarantee their safety, your value is consistently questioned, and even being “twice as good” is often not good enough. Consequently, Black women disproportionately experience anxiety and depression. Studies now conclusively connect racism and mental health―and physical health. Take care of your emotional health. You deserve to be emotionally healthy for yourself and those you love. More and more young Black women are re-examining the Strong Black Woman syndrome and engaging in self-care practices that change their lives. Hear stories of Black women who: Asked for help Built lives that offer healing Learned to accept healing If you have read The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health, The Racial Healing Handbook, or Black Fatigue, The Strong Black Woman is your next read.

GOLD MEDALIST OF FOREWORD REVIEWS' 2015 INDIEFAB AWARDS IN WOMEN'S STUDIES What's wrong with black women? Not a damned thing! The Sisters Are Alright exposes anti–black-woman propaganda and shows how real black women are pushing back against distorted cartoon versions of themselves. When African women arrived on American shores, the three-headed hydra—servile Mammy, angry Sapphire, and lascivious Jezebel—followed close behind. In the '60s, the Matriarch, the willfully unmarried baby machine leeching off the state, joined them. These stereotypes persist to this day through newspaper headlines, Sunday sermons, social media memes, cable punditry, government policies, and hit song lyrics. Emancipation may have happened more than 150 years ago, but America still won't let a sister be free from this coven of caricatures. Tamara Winfrey Harris delves into marriage, motherhood, health, sexuality, beauty, and more, taking sharp aim at pervasive stereotypes about black women. She counters warped prejudices with the straight-up truth about being a black woman in America. “We have facets like diamonds,” she writes. “The trouble is the people who refuse to see us sparkling.”

This book is written for Black women and the people who want to love us. Whether you are a Black man, woman, or a man of any race and you really want to understand us, this handbook is a resource that may give you insights into how to care for and love a Black woman. This book is consciously inclusive of LGBTQIAP and heterosexuals who authentically want to be committed to a person who identifies as a Black woman. It is for the person who wants to purposefully court and commit to a Black woman.This book is also a good resource for the single Black woman exploring her own desires and needs. It may help Black women in their own process of self-love and self-discovery as she emerges from heartbreak to healing to a healthy loving relationship. It provides life lessons, affirmations, and self-care activities. It also takes into account that all Black women are not the same but there are some shared historical experiences that provide a foundation to knowing how to build a strong lasting relationship with us. It is not a "one size fits all", so take what you need.

A complete self-love guide for black women (workbook section included)How many times do you feel alone every single day? How many times do you feel like you are fighting an uphill battle against your surroundings? Why in your daily life do you always run into situations that make you feel inadequate or misunderstood? If you relate to these lines as you read them, it is possible that you find yourself trapped in a state of emotional blockage and you are struggling to find a way to achieve your inner balance. Perhaps you still have to live in a hostile environment where some outdated cultural expectations make you feel like an outcast. Or perhaps you simply want more from life and you are fighting to get it, but the sense of inadequacy or helplessness oppresses you so that you cannot go on as you would like. If you see yourself in all of that, the only way to get out of this spiral of malaise is self-love. Yes, you have probably heard a lot about self-love, but maybe you have never really understood what it means, how to actually achieve it, or you haven't found the right tools that introduce you to it. This self-love guide, dear woman of color, is designed for you; it will not sell you magical solutions, but it will show you a way. Remember, loving yourself is not for everyone-it is a great act of courage and sincerity toward oneself. To love yourself and cultivate your uniqueness, you must start from your roots. You must know and re-evaluate them; to go where you want and make your star shine, you must first know where you come from. This guide was born exactly with the intention of reawakening the values of a community, making you feel like a part of it, and laying the foundations for your path of spiritual growth through this experience. On your journey through this book: You will rediscover and revisit the values that are innate in the Black culture and experience, and gain an almost ancestral sense of community. You will finally realize why Black women in prominent positions seem to have something more, and why their way of being, as well as their contagious empathy, are so powerful and able to make all the difference. You will draw inspiration from stories of ordinary (and not) women of color who have achieved success starting from very difficult situations and rising through adversity. You will understand the real meaning of self-love, how to experience it, and the impact it can have on the subconscious to change your disempowering beliefs, help you regain inner strength, and discover your true nature. You will find the single most practical techniques to reach self-love step by step and have access to a whole chapter of exercises that give you the opportunity to track your daily progress for a period of 12 weeks. The tools in this book can be small but effective supports in your daily life if you choose to embrace them. Take the book with you when you go to work, take a walk, look after the family, or in all those situations where you feel alone or out of place. If you believe this is not necessary for you, give this guide as a gift or share it with someone-a mate, a friend, or a relative who isn't doing so well or is striving for a better life.