Etiquette Politeness And Good Breeding Embracing All Forms And Ceremonies In The Etiquette Of Marriage Etc

Starting after the Great War, this book charts the rise of the ritualistic engagement, the modern white wedding and the more widely available honeymoon holiday, to show changes and continuities in English masculinity by considering power relations between men and women. Through a close reading of a range of sources (including first-person testimonies, newspapers and etiquette manuals), power relations between bride and groom, and between different generations, are revealed in the context of social class and the rise of consumerism.

Before the days of unruly teenagers, 'ladettes' and a public obsessed with scandal, there existed a time of gentility and manners. Setting the standards of propriety was The Well-Bred Person's Book of Etiquette, the epitome of politeness consulted by anybody who was anybody. With advice ranging from how to introduce guests at a party to the appropriate manner in which to court a loved one, from how to dress to the acceptance and rejection of a marriage proposal, this fascinating book is a must-have for those aspiring to the dizzy heights of refined society. Whether you are eager to improve your own etiquette or simply wish to indulge in the fancies of polite society, The Well-Bred Person's Book of Etiquette is the ideal guide on how to be the perfect lady or gentleman.

Containing... Clear and Comprehensive Directions for Correct Manners, Dress, and Conversation; Instructions for Good Behavior at Dinner Parties, and the Table, with Hints on the Art of Carving and Taking Wine at Table; Together with the Etiquette of the Ball and Assembly Room, Evening Parties; Deportment in the Street and when Traveling; And the Usages to be Observed when Visiting or Receiving Calls. To which is added... The etiquette of courtship, marriage, domestic duties, and fifty-six rules to be observed in general society. Politeness has been defined as an "artificial good-nature;" but it would be better said that good-nature is natural politeness. It inspires us with an unremitting attention, both to please others and to avoid giving them offense. Its code is a ceremonial, agreed upon and established among mankind, to give each other external testimonies of friendship or respect. Politeness and etiquette form a sort of supplement to the law, which enables society to protect itself against offences which the law cannot touch. For instance, the law cannot punish a man for habitually staring at people in an insolent and annoying manner, but etiquette can banish such an offender from the circles of good society, and fix upon him the brand of vulgarity. Etiquette consists in certain forms, ceremonies, and rules which the principle of politeness establishes and enforces for the regulation of the manners of men and women in their intercourse with each other. The true aim of politeness, is to make those with whom you associate as well satisfied with themselves as possible. It does not, by any means, encourage an impudent self-importance in them, but it does whatever it can to accommodate their feelings and wishes in social intercourse. Politeness is a sort of social benevolence, which avoids wounding the pride, or shocking the prejudices of those around you. The principle of politeness is the same among all nations, but the ceremonials which etiquette imposes differ according to the taste and habits of various countries. For instance, many of the minor rules of etiquette at Paris differ from those at London; and at New York they may differ from both Paris and London. But still the polite of every country have about the same manners. But what you should do, and what not, in particular cases, you will learn in the following chapters. I have only now to say, that if you wish to be agreeable, which is certainly a good and religious desire, you must both study how to be so, and take the trouble to put your studies into constant practice. The fruit you will soon reap. You will be generally liked and loved. The gratitude of those to whom you have devoted yourself will be shown in speaking well of you; you will become a desirable addition to every party, and whatever your birth, fortune, or position, people will say of you, "He is a most agreeable and well-bred man," and be glad to introduce you to good society. But you will reap a yet better reward. You will have in yourself the satisfaction of having taken trouble and made sacrifices in order to give pleasure and happiness for the time to others. How do you know what grief or care you may not obliterate, what humiliation you may not alter to confidence, what anxiety you may not soften, what--last, but really not least--what intense dullness you may not enliven? If this work assist you in becoming an agreeable member of good society, I shall rejoice at the labor it has given me.