Discover The Roots To Your Anger

Anger is one of our most dynamic and forceful emotions moving us very powerfully. Emotions are not good or bad; they are simply part of life. What we choose to do with these emotions indicates whether they become positive or negative. If angry feelings are suppressed they may never become recognized or named. This could lead to mental health problems. Anger turned inwards is the cause of many relationship problems. Anger may trigger anxiety. Anxiety may in turn produce anger. Just because you are angry does not necessarily imply that you have a problem. Anger is after all, part of a natural response that aids in our survival and helps us to protect others. Anger, can therefore give one the courage to protect our loved ones; it may warn others not to take advantage of us and in some instances confirm our own individuality. Anger can also be a healthy emotion, as it can lead us to take appropriate action. It can also help us to 'make right the wrongs' in our lives and to face up to our personal issues. Facing up to your anger and wanting to make changes, leads to the contribution of positive self-esteem and enhanced feelings of self-worth. Anger does not always lead to devastating circumstances. However, left untreated, it can lead to psychological problems or can actually 'exacerbate' existing ones. As medical intervention can be an effective antidote for infectious diseases, similarly applying anger management strategies can be an effective antidote to dysfunctional anger and recurring resentments. Serious physical wounds need serious medicine and require the skill of a physician to detect the source of the problem. Serious deep-rooted anger may also require the attention and skill of a health care professional.

From a leading expert, a guide to changing your anger style and successfully communicating your feelings. Do you act out your anger in destructive or underhanded ways? Or do you suppress your anger and turn other people’s abuse and criticism against yourself? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But if it’s channeled in negative directions, anger can do real damage to you and your loved ones. In this provocative, healing book, psychotherapist Beverly Engel explains why your personal anger style may be hurting your relationships, your career, and yourself. She then shows you step by step how to transform a negative anger style into a positive one. Once you've discovered how to express your anger in healthy ways, you'll find that anger can empower you, motivate you to make important changes, and help you gain a sense of control over your life. “You can indeed learn to understand and manage your anger, and this book will show you how.” —Robert Epstein, Ph.D., West Coast Editor, Psychology Today, Director Emeritus, Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies, University Research Professor, California School of Professional Psychology “A critical first step for people who have trouble getting in touch with their anger and expressing it in direct and appropriate ways.” —Virginia Williams, Ph.D., coauthor of Anger Kills and Lifeskills

This new book from anger expert Potter-Efron offers powerful, emergency help to anyone whose extreme and volatile rages cause him or her to lose control of emotions, behaviors, and even conscious awareness--causing sometimes irreparable emotional and physical harm to themselves, their loved ones, and, occasionally, to innocent by-standers....

The Gift of Anger shows you how to discover the deeper meaning behind your anger, and change the relationships and situations in your life that frustrate you. In seven simple and effective steps, this book guides you past any level of anger, from mild irritation to rage, and toward a balanced approach to using anger for greater understanding and well-being. By learning to see anger as a gift, you'll be able to: Regain emotional balance after becoming angry; Identify and name the unmet needs at the root of your anger; Create an action plan for ensuring your needs are met; and Understand and forgive others and have compassion for yourself.

It's a mad, mad world and rare is the person who gets through a single day without encountering an irritating, frustrating, or anger-producing situation. Deborah Pegues, author of the award-winning and bestselling 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue (more than 650,000 sold), is once again a voice of hope in this indispensable guide for dealing with short-term and long-term feelings of displeasure. Pegues reveals that anger is a secondary emotion. She uses biblical and modern-day stories to help you identify 18 primary emotions that may be at the root of your anger—and to choose Scripture-based responses for effectively dealing with them. You will discover anger-taming strategies such as predetermining how to respond to certain triggers deactivating your "anger buttons" developing a divine perspective toward frustrating people or circumstances exercising the fruit of the Spirit to thwart impatience and irritability understanding how food and other factors affect mood 30 Days to Taming Your Anger provides Scripture-based principles, heart-searching personal challenges, and powerful affirmations that point you to a new sense of freedom and improved relationships. Perfect for individual devotions, small groups, and biblical counseling.

Defuse your anger with CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a hugely popular self-help technique, which teaches you how to break free from destructive or negative behaviors and make positive changes to both your thoughts and your actions. This practical guide to managing anger with CBT will help you to understand your anger, identify solutions to your problems, and maintain your gains and avoid relapse. This concise, user-friendly guide provides focused advice on defusing anger using proven CBT techniques. You'll discover how to keep your anger under control and identify the negative thought processes that lead to angry outbursts. Shows you how to use CBT to help you react positively to frustrating situations Helps you learn to assert yourself effectively without losing your temper Gives you tried-and-true CBT techniques to let go of unhealthy anger If you're struggling with anger management, Managing Anger with CBT For Dummies gives you the tools you need to keep your cool and live a happier, more balanced life.

This is THE book on anger, the first book to explain exactly why we get mad, what anger really is - and how to cope with and use it. Often confused with hostility and violence, anger is fundamentally different from these aggressive behaviours and in fact can be a healthy and powerful force in our lives. What is anger? Who is allowed to be angry? How can we manage our anger? How can we use it? It might seem like a day doesn't go by without some troubling explosion of anger, whether we're shouting at the kids, or the TV, or the driver ahead who's slowing us down. In this book, the first of its kind, Dr. Ryan Martin draws on 20 years plus of research, as well as his own childhood experience of an angry parent, to take an all-round view on this often-challenging emotion. It explains exactly what anger is, why we get angry, how our anger hurts us as well as those around us, and how we can manage our anger and even channel it into positive change. It also explores how race and gender shape society's perceptions of who is allowed to get angry. Dr. Martin offers questionnaires, emotion logs, control techniques and many other tools to help readers understand better what pushes their buttons and what to do with angry feelings when they arise. It shows how to differentiate good anger from bad anger, and reframe anger from being a necessarily problematic experience in our lives to being a fuel that energizes us to solve problems, release our creativity and confront injustice.

During the past several years, violence by children has dominated the media, exposing this issue as one of the new epidemics of our society. The slaughter of children by children at Littleton--and the backlash of similar incidents--have opened our eyes to the severity of this problem. But what is the cause of all this anger in kids? In Angry Kids, Richard Berry draws from his experience as a marriage and family therapist to provide some answers about angry kids to parents, teachers, youth workers, counselors, and school social workers. His biblical perspective challenges parents and children to be accountable for their actions while working out solutions. Well-written, timely, and practical, Angry Kids exposes three root causes of anger in children of all ages. It also explains how parents can inadvertently contribute to that rage, how they can help their children discover the real feelings behind their anger, and how to then teach them techniques for expressing and defusing that anger. Charts, specific examples, and practical application further clarify how to stop the spreading epidemic of angry kids.

How should Christians understand anger, evaluate it, and respond for good? We all struggle with anger at times: Our plans suddenly fall through, we lose a prized possession, or our reputation is called into question. More often than not, when anger knocks at the doors of our hearts we easily allow it to take over. But what if getting to the heart of our anger also reveals the way to transform it? Christopher Ash and Steve Midgley address this question by bringing to bear what the whole Bible has to say about sinful anger—revealing that anger is the sinful response when something we value more than God is taken away or threatened. They reflect on biblical portraits of human anger, God's righteous anger, and how only the gospel of Jesus Christ brings true freedom—transforming a heart of anger into a heart filled with the love of God.

Anger kills. We’re speaking here not about the anger that drives people to shoot, stab, or otherwise wreak havoc on their fellow humans. We mean instead the everyday sort of anger, annoyance, and irritation that courses through the minds and bodies of many perfectly normal people. • If your immediate impulse when faced with everyday delays or frustrations—elevators that don’t immediately arrive at your floor, slow-moving supermarket lines, dawdling drivers, rude teenagers, broken vending machines—is to blame somebody; • If this blaming quickly sparks your ire toward the offender; • If your ire often manifests itself in aggressive action; then, for you, getting angry is like taking a small dose of some slow-acting poison—arsenic, for example—every day of your life. And the result is often the same: Not tomorrow, perhaps, or even the day after, but sooner than most of us would wish, your hostility is more likely to harm your health than will be the case for your friend whose personality is not tinged by the tendencies to cynicism, anger, and aggression just described. In Anger Kills, learn how to recognize the symptoms of chronic anger in yourself, avoid feelings of hostility, and deal with hostility from others.