Being There For Someone In Grief Essential Lessons For Supporting Someone Grieving From Death Loss And Trauma

Grief and loss are inevitable, a part of life's journey. Through storytelling, this resource offers a general map of the landscape of suffering where, ultimately, love can heal grief's wound.

A compassionate resource for friends, parents, relatives, teachers, volunteers, and caregivers, this series offers suggestions to help the grieving cope with the loss of a loved one. Often people do not know what to say—or what not to say—to someone they know who is mourning; this series teaches that the most important thing a person can do is listen, have compassion, be there for support, and do something helpful. This volume provides the fundamental principles of being a true companion, from committing to contact the friend regularly to being mindful of the anniversary of the death. Included in each book are tested, sensitive ideas for “carpe diem” actions that people can take right this minute—while still remaining supportive and honoring the mourner’s loss.

Written in consideration of cross-cultural, international perspectives on loss, Perspectives on Loss and Trauma discusses relevant therapy approaches and emphasizes a story-telling approach to coping with major loss. It concludes with chapters on therapy and personal adjustment to loss, providing immediate applicability to counselors, therapists, social workers, and other human service professionals.

Cartoonist Rocky Stellar has just lost his job. Out of work for the first time in forty years, Rocky knows he is not ready for retirement and wants to rediscover his artistic passion. Seeking advice, he visits a quirky Arizona desert recluse and storyteller. Through powerful questions and stories, Padre Cisco challenges Rocky as he embarks on a journey of reflection and self-discovery. His story unfolds in unexpected ways as his desire to repair his art life and his contentious relationships with his father and daughter take precedence. Driven to find a clear path to fulfillment, Rocky must learn to balance his inner-struggles with Padre Cisco’s wisdom as he seeks to answer the padre’s pivotal question: “Are you willing to give up what you know to learn what you do not?” Padre Cisco: Conversations with a Desert Father shares the introspective journey of an out-of-work cartoonist as he searches for spiritual understanding through his own reflections and the wisdom of an Arizona storyteller. “It isn’t often I get to learn from someone who delivers the truth on a punch line.” ~ Rocky Stellar

"I am so glad that Rachel wrote this book so she can continue to help more people live with loss. She has a special gift for imparting small and manageable ideas that can profoundly impact someone grieving. Loss is never easy, but Rachel's words and wisdom can help make the journey a bit more bearable and perhaps even more meaningful."—Sharon Liese, from the forewordLiving with Loss offers daily encouragement to individuals and families who have recently lost a loved one. The short entries are easy to read and give realistic, practical advice to guide readers through the day. By providing tools and suggestions that offer hope, optimism, introspection, and self-discovery, this book enables readers to embrace the happy days of life with their loved one and gently guide them through their grief.

This is the authoritative guide to conducting trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT), a systematic, evidence-based treatment for traumatized children and their families. Provided is a comprehensive framework for assessing posttraumatic stress disorder, depression, anxiety, and other symptoms; developing a flexible, individualized treatment plan; and working collaboratively with children and parents to build core skills in such areas as affect regulation and safety. Specific guidance is offered for responding to different types of traumatic events, with an entire section devoted to grief-focused components. Useful appendices feature resources, reproducible handouts, and information on obtaining additional training. TF-CBT has been nationally recognized as an exemplary evidence-based program. See also the edited volume Trauma-Focused CBT for Children and Adolescents: Treatment Applications for more information on tailoring TF-CBT to children's varying developmental levels and cultural backgrounds.

This book fills a critical gap in our scientific understanding of the grief response of parents who have lost a child to traumatic death and the psychotherapeutic strategies that best facilitate healing. It is based on the results of the largest study ever conducted of parents surviving a child's traumatic death or suicide. The book was conceived by William and Beverly Feigelman following their own devastating loss of a son, and written from the perspective of their experiences as both suicide-survivor support group participants and facilitators. It intertwines data, insight, and critical learning gathered from research with the voices of the 575 survivors who participated in the study. The text emphasizes the sociological underpinnings of survivors' grief and provides data that vividly documents their critical need for emotional support. It explains how bereavement difficulties can be exacerbated by stigmatization, and by the failure of significant others to provide expected support. Also explored in depth are the ways in which couples adapt to the traumatic loss of a child and how this can bring them closer or render their relationship irreparable. Findings suggest that with time and peer support affiliations, most traumatically bereaved parents ultimately demonstrate resilience and find meaningful new roles for themselves, helping the newly bereaved or engaging in other humanitarian acts. Key Features: Offers researchers, clinicians, and parent-survivors current information on how parents adapt initially and over time after the traumatic loss of a child Presents data culled from the largest survey ever conducted (575 individuals) of parents surviving a child's suicide or other traumatic death Investigates the ways in which stigmatization complicates and prolongs the grieving process Addresses the tremendous value of support groups in the healing process Explores how married couples are affected by the traumatic loss of their child

“Dr. Botkin has hit upon a fascinating and powerful new tool that may not only help clients cope with their losses, but also breaks new ground in understanding life and death.” —Bruce Greyson, MD, bestselling author of After “A must read for all serious students of death and dying.”—Raymond Moody, MD, PhD Induced After Death Communication (IADC) is a therapy for grief and trauma that has helped thousands of people come to terms with their loss by allowing them the experience of private communication with their departed loved ones. This is the definitive book on the subject. Botkin, a clinical psychologist, created the therapy while counseling Vietnam veterans in his work at a Chicago area VA hospital. Botkin recounts his initial—accidental—discovery of IADC during therapy sessions with Sam, a Vietnam vet haunted by the memory of a Vietnamese girl he couldn't save. During the session, quite unexpectedly, Sam saw a vision of the girl's spirit, who told him everything was okay; she was at peace now. This single moment surpassed months--years--of therapy, and allowed Sam to reconnect with his family. Since that 1995 discovery, Botkin has used IADC to successfully treat countless patients—the book includes dozens of case examples—and has taught the procedure to therapists around the country. This is the inside story of a revolutionary therapy that will profoundly affect how grief and trauma are understood and treated.

The death of a loved one is a traumatic event for both adults and children. Grieving has no rules, no prescribed course, or expiration date. After a death, the feelings and experiences that follow can be extremely overwhelming and confusing. The authors of this book create a supportive environment that normalizes the phases of grief through clinical expertise, including a lifespan approach that indicates grief is certainly a journey from which none of us ever escapes nor perhaps reaches closure. This is an important work that addresses the spiritual, emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of a person’s grief. Specific topics include: the physical aspects of grief; anticipatory grief; grief through a child’s eyes; understanding grief and spirituality; counseling the bereaved adult; adult grief support groups; death in a military family; counseling grieving children and traumatic loss; messages of mourning; using art to facilitate a child’s expression of grief; and the importance of self-care. In addition, numerous case examples describing real-life experiences are discussed, helping to enhance coping and encourage healing. The text is further enhanced by an appendix containing a wealth of information that includes sample group activities. This book will be a significant resource for mental health professionals, grief counselors, human service providers, social workers, clergy, nurses, and lay volunteers.

Debra Holland, a psychotherapist and specialist in grief counseling, shares her indispensable knowledge in The Essential Guide to Grief and Grieving, tackling the difficult questions about how men and women, young and old, cope with loss. This accessible, inspiring, and insightful guide helps readers understand the various kinds and levels of grief, how people are trained to experience grief, the theories concerning the stages in the journey of grief, and ways to get through the pain and achieve some level of comfort. - Includes solid concrete advice to help the healing process. - Features dozens of real-life stories. - Helpful for those who counsel the grieving as well as those who've experienced loss.